It’s inevitable. It’s inescapable.
And yet, it feels like no one’s prepared for it.
Menopause.
The silent shape-shifter that arrives wearing rage, grief, brain fog, and a twitchy leg.
I was early to the party. Chemotherapy didn’t just kill my cancer — it killed my ovaries too. A fair exchange, sure. But no one handed me a guide for what came next. No one said: “Here’s how you’ll feel when your entire hormonal foundation gets stripped away.”
So I did what most high-functioning women do: I cracked on.
But years later — after surgeries, symptom stacking, and a grief so quiet it nearly buried me — I realised I needed more than advice. I needed a new lens to make sense of what was happening.
That lens?
Human Design.
Not a cure — but a clarifier. A permission slip to listen inward when everything outside said “You’re fine.”
🌡️ From “Doing Fine” to Disappearing
I was in menopause by 42.
No periods. 30+ hot flushes a day. But somehow, I managed.
I built my life like a Generator does — one aligned “yes” at a time.
My gut knew what to do, and I followed it like a soldier with a mission.
For four years, I trained, built a business, ran toward life with everything I had.
Strategy: Respond to what’s real.
Authority: Trust the full-body yes.
But when I had my ovaries removed completely, everything changed.
The hormonal floor vanished overnight. The “wobble” they warned me about?
Try tsunami.
🧠 The Cliff-Edge Symptoms No One Warns You About
It wasn’t just hot flushes.
It was bone-deep fatigue.
Mood swings so violent they scared me.
Brain fog so thick, I couldn’t hold a thought.
My daughter asked me where my laugh had gone.
And that’s when I knew — I wasn’t me anymore.
I wasn’t depressed. I wasn’t ungrateful.
I was out of alignment with my Design and short of a lot of hormones.
🧭 When Authority Is Everything
In Human Design, your Authority is how you know what’s right for you.
Mine? Emotional.
The Wave Walker.
I need time, space, and perspective before I make big calls.
But back then, I was stuck in the aftermath of a body trauma spiral, trying to think my way to clarity.
Instead of riding the wave, I was drowning in it.
Until one of my consultants finally said:
“You’re not stupid, Alex. You already know what to do.”
He was right.
The clarity didn’t come from facts — it came from permission to feel.
And when I gave myself that permission, I made the call: Start HRT.
Four weeks later, my laughter came back.
My clarity returned.
My life unfurled again.
💡 What Human Design Made Clear
This isn’t a post about HRT being right or wrong.
It’s about what happens when women stop overriding their body-led truth.
Human Design gave me a map when everything else was noise.
- My Energy Type showed me why I had the power to rebuild — again.
- My Strategy showed me why I couldn’t blindly follow advice that didn’t feel true.
- My Authority reminded me that my timing matters more than their protocols.
You don’t need a perfect plan.
You need a decision-making process that honours your nervous system.
🧬 Menopause + Human Design = A New Permission
We think menopause is a curse.
What if it’s actually a catalyst?
Because here’s the thing:
- Sacral types (Generators/MGs): You’ll know what works when your gut says yes — stop outsourcing your decisions.
- Emotional authorities: You need time to feel it out — clarity isn’t instant. Let it rise.
- Splenic types: Your body whispers — if something feels wrong, it probably is.
- Ego authorities: What do you want? Not what’s expected. What matters to you?
- Mental/Environmental: You need the right space and support to decide. Choose your environment before your supplement stack.
- Self-projected: Speak your truth. When the words land, your body will know.
- Reflectors: Honour your rhythm. Your timeline is not a crisis — it’s a calibration.
🖤 Final Truth?
Menopause stripped me down to my design.
And Human Design handed me the blueprint to build back on my own terms.
HRT was my tool — not my identity.
Permission was the medicine.
Clarity was the outcome.
You don’t need to justify your choices.
You need to honour what feels right in your body. That’s real self-leadership.
🔗 Ready to decode your own menopause map?
Take the Inherited Response™ Quiz and discover how your Authority is guiding you — or hijacking you.
Or explore The Clarity Code® — my Human Design-based guide to body-led reinvention, whether you’re in menopause, reinvention, or both.
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